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February 23, 2023February 24, 2023

Letting go of the fear of being judged

Years ago, I was taking a yoga class at work.

Every Monday and Wednesday, I’d bring my yoga mat to the office and at lunchtime I’d go down to the gym and take the 50-minute class.

It felt so good.

At the time, my kids were in elementary school, and I was divorced, so this was MY time.

One lunch hour, as I was walking down to the gym, a colleague stopped me.

He asked where I was going.

I said I was going to a yoga class.

And then he made a comment that really affected me.

He said, “I wish I had that kind of time.”

When he said it, I started to feel shame rise up in me.

February 9, 2023

Perimenopause is more than just hot flashes

Before hitting perimenopause, around 45, the only things I really knew about menopause were hot flashes…

And not having a period anymore.

Honestly, both these things sounded pretty good to me.

First because I was freezing most of the time.

And no period? Where do I sign up???

However, with five years of peri under my belt (literally) and learning a lot more about perimenopause and others’ experiences, I know that it’s much more than this.

January 26, 2023

How to have more BALANCE in your life

What does balance mean to you?

Is it about splitting your time between doing the things you want to do and the things you don’t?

Or maybe it’s about managing your energy between pushing yourself and relaxing.

Balance is a simple word that can mean many things.

So, if you want balance, you need to define what it means to you if you’re going to achieve it.

And I think a good place to start is to notice how you’re feeling.

January 19, 2023January 19, 2023

Pelvic health, aging, and life as a woman in perimenopause

We had a great discussion.

It started with pelvic health in menopause, but ended with some profound insights into aging.

As women.

On Wednesday evenings I meet with my BF2BF coaching group.

January 5, 2023January 5, 2023

Bring out your RED in 2023

At 50, I’ve realized that the real hard work in life isn’t the physical stuff we do.

It’s not the going to work or school, the moving to new places, the raising kids, or the actual physical challenges we put ourselves through.

The real hard work is facing ourselves.

Facing who we are and what we actually want.

Taking the time to listen to and understand ourselves.

Most of us don’t go there.

Either we don’t think about it, or, more likely, we avoid it.

I know because I often hear a version of:

December 31, 2022December 31, 2022

What are your BIG 3 for 2023?

On this last day of 2022, I’m thinking about the blank sheet that is 2023.

A whole new year ahead of us.

A fresh start.

Anything is possible.

And although a lot of what’s going to happen in 2023 isn’t in your control…

Who you are, no matter what happens, is always up to you.

You don’t have to feel the way you routinely feel today.

You can generate new feelings and thoughts anytime you want.

So, 2023 can be the year that you drop old, stale patterns of reacting.

It’s the year you can stop using food or wine to deal with negative events or feelings.

Or you can purposely create a morning routine that generates positive energy for your whole day.

And it all starts with one simple question…

How do you want to feel this year?

December 8, 2022December 20, 2023

Slow down to speed up 2

Last year I wrote this post.

And my thinking on it has evolved since then.

So, I’m bringing it back, along with some updates.

Here we go…

December 2, 2022

Join me for my Belly Fat to Belly Fit webinar

It’s the holiday season.

And generally, it’s a hectic time with parties, events, shopping for ALL the things, and navigating the holiday food landscape everywhere you go.

And not having much, if any, time left for YOU.

Between the stress and the treats and no self-care, your HORMONES can easily end up in a tailspin.

Especially if you’re over 45 and in perimenopause.

But, it doesn’t have to be this way.

November 18, 2022

Is your brain sabotaging you?

We talk about self-sabotage.

And yes, it’s kind of a real thing.

Caused by your well-meaning, protective brain.

Your brain, like mine, wants to keep you the same, because the same is safe in your brain’s world.

But as you know, staying the same isn’t necessarily the same as being healthy.

And so you can see where conflict might be…

October 27, 2022October 27, 2022

Halloween Candy: Is it a trick or a treat?

I’m lucky this year.

I’ll be away Halloween night and my kids are no longer on the trick-or-treating circuit.

So, I haven’t bought any candy.

However, I was VERY tempted this week.

At the grocery store, the boxes were right there, and the O’Henrys were practically calling my name.

But I had no good argument.

This year I couldn’t even try to fool my own mind with “they’re for the kids,” or “I’ll hide them until Halloween night.”

And yes, I’ve said those things before… and I just went out and bought more.

Halloween candy is addictive.

It’s a dangerous mixture of nostalgia and highly-paletable, microdoses of sugar.

One is never enough.