“Don’t set your expectations too high, you’ll be setting yourself up for disappointment.”
Yikes!!
I’m sure you, like me, have heard this more than once… Am I right?
The problem is, for me, and maybe for you, I fell for it; hook, line, and sinker.
In fact, I’ve allowed this thought to hold me hostage in certain areas of my life.
It’s kept me from thinking too big, expecting help, and expecting I’ll succeed.
But when I really, consciously, think about it, what’s the big deal about having high expectations?
Will it really hurt if I don’t get what I expect?
Maybe.
But I bet it won’t hurt as much as the fear I have that it’ll hurt.
From experience, I’ve come to know that the anticipation of pain is usually a lot worse than the pain itself.
And honestly looking at it, not expecting things hasn’t served me.
It’s kept me in place.
Safe? Not sure.
I’ve been avoiding disappointment, and that’s left me feeling… Disappointed.
And I don’t see that as safe.
So, for 2019 I want to expect more than I’ve ever allowed myself to expect.
I want to think big, unapologetically.
I want to expect that I can’t do things alone, and that it’s ok, because someone is always nearby to help.
I want to expect that I’ll succeed at anything I decide to pursue.
And I want to experience the failure just so I’ll come to realize that it’s not so bad.
At least if the expectation is there, I’ll reach for what I want.
And I choose not to be disappointed if I don’t get it.
Instead, I’ll decide to be satisfied that I learned new things and pushed my boundaries.
And then I’ll just keep going.
Because truly, there’s nothing to stop me.
Except me.
So, like I mentioned last week, for 2019 I’m expecting to help 100 women reduce their waist measurement to at least half their height (if that sounds strange, read last weeks blog, it’ll make more sense.)
Yes, it’s scary to expect that I’ll get there.
But if I don’t expect it, I won’t put any effort into it.
So, no more playing it safe going forward.
It’s time to expect more.
So, what will you expect from yourself this year?
What are you willing to try and fail at?
Maybe you feel you’ve been burned one too many times when trying to do something, that you’re discouraged to try again.
But I bet if you really looked at what you did in the past, you might see that you really weren’t expecting to succeed.
You went through the motions, but never really believed.
Because believing and then not succeeding might make you look bad, or feel bad. Maybe you’d see yourself as a failure.
But what’s the difference?
Well, either you don’t believe, then make a little effort to look like you’re trying, then almost guarantee a failure, and say “I knew it wouldn’t work.” And you’d be right. And being right feels good, right?
Or you do believe, you put in a lot of effort, you have a good chance of success, and either way – success or failure – you can choose to just keep on going. No justifications or apologies necessary.
I like option #2 myself.
So what will you do this year – with gusto – knowing you might fail, but are willing to go for it anyways?
I’d love for you to share in the comments below.
Also, if you want to be one of the 100 women I’m helping this year, you can start off strong by joining the 7-day Belly Fit Challenge…
It would be a great way to commit to raising your own expectations… And it’s free!
The challenge starts on Tuesday, January 1st.
In the meantime, keep moving forward my friend,
Debbie
P.S. I’ve still got two spots available for health and life coaching in the new year. If you think it might be interesting for you, start by signing up for the free 15-minute coaching call with me – there’s zero obligation 🙂
P.P.S. Here’s the link once again for the 7-day Belly Fit Challenge: www.momentum-fit.ca/the-7-day-belly-fit-challenge
P.P.S. If you live in the Rosemere, QC area, Boot Camp and Yoga classes begin in less than two weeks! For more info, or to sign up, check out my classes here: www.momentum-fit.ca/classes